LIKE,
POKE, TWEET…AND ALL THAT CR*P!
Not a fashion lesson!
While reading everyone's resolutions, I've started spending an hour or two, thinking about things. I don't usually make resolutions because it's so hard to make them stick (I've always had trouble following rules, ironic much?) But there is one thing I can't stop thinking about; Should women become the initiators in dating? If yes, why should we even consider it? Aren't men traditionally the ones to pursue? Yes, but note the word traditionally. Since the social media completely demolished the principles on which dating was founded, I decided it's time to take action.
Before phones, before texting, before Facebook and Twitter, if you wanted to talk to someone you just had to walk up to them and say something. Yes I am talking to you boys. You were raw and vulnerable. Women could read your tone, body language and facial expressions. But today, with tweets, likes, friend requests and pokes, the dating game has completely changed.
There was a time that I didn't know why meeting good men rendered so difficult! But now - I think - I am starting to get it. Back then I was in love with being in love; I did what would put me on the fast road to companionship and even tried to mirror the interests of my potential boyfriends with my own. One of me is enough, I learned. Too much, even. Way too much.
And when I did like a guy? Facebook, text messages and twitter killed the butterflies! Why? Well for starters, I went paranoid. What was he doing in the two hours he did not reply my private message? Who was that girl he was posing with? And especially now with Facebook's new gut-wrenching feature e.g. "Seen at 12pm", things are becoming even worse!
Whenever I go out with my parents for dinner they start narrating the story of how they met.They met the old fashioned way; at a mutual friends party. My mother had arrived from another city and as soon as my dad saw her he fell in love. He asked right away the mutual friend - soon to become the perfect match maker - who that woman was. As soon as they got introduced my dad chased her to her city. Each and every single day he would go, pick her up take her out on a date and then bring her back home.
But shit like that doesn't happen anymore. Now you have pokes - I hate these - phone calls in the early hours - I hate these even more - , Facebook messages and retweets. And even though I did meet someone who I really like (it was a combination of Facebook and a mutual friend), it certainly won't involve a chase to another Country.
So I am going to conclude with the question I mentioned above. Should women become the initiators in dating? Should we chase the ones we like? Should I expect romantic encounters through the Social Media? All I know is that the scenario of Adele playing in the background and someone preventing me to get on the train or airplane has become a long lasting dream. So boys, these are the dating circumstances in the 21st Century. Any thoughts?
Written by the Editor in Chief and face behind Lawyering Fashion, Evangelina Fysa
While reading everyone's resolutions, I've started spending an hour or two, thinking about things. I don't usually make resolutions because it's so hard to make them stick (I've always had trouble following rules, ironic much?) But there is one thing I can't stop thinking about; Should women become the initiators in dating? If yes, why should we even consider it? Aren't men traditionally the ones to pursue? Yes, but note the word traditionally. Since the social media completely demolished the principles on which dating was founded, I decided it's time to take action.
Before phones, before texting, before Facebook and Twitter, if you wanted to talk to someone you just had to walk up to them and say something. Yes I am talking to you boys. You were raw and vulnerable. Women could read your tone, body language and facial expressions. But today, with tweets, likes, friend requests and pokes, the dating game has completely changed.
There was a time that I didn't know why meeting good men rendered so difficult! But now - I think - I am starting to get it. Back then I was in love with being in love; I did what would put me on the fast road to companionship and even tried to mirror the interests of my potential boyfriends with my own. One of me is enough, I learned. Too much, even. Way too much.
And when I did like a guy? Facebook, text messages and twitter killed the butterflies! Why? Well for starters, I went paranoid. What was he doing in the two hours he did not reply my private message? Who was that girl he was posing with? And especially now with Facebook's new gut-wrenching feature e.g. "Seen at 12pm", things are becoming even worse!
Whenever I go out with my parents for dinner they start narrating the story of how they met.They met the old fashioned way; at a mutual friends party. My mother had arrived from another city and as soon as my dad saw her he fell in love. He asked right away the mutual friend - soon to become the perfect match maker - who that woman was. As soon as they got introduced my dad chased her to her city. Each and every single day he would go, pick her up take her out on a date and then bring her back home.
But shit like that doesn't happen anymore. Now you have pokes - I hate these - phone calls in the early hours - I hate these even more - , Facebook messages and retweets. And even though I did meet someone who I really like (it was a combination of Facebook and a mutual friend), it certainly won't involve a chase to another Country.
So I am going to conclude with the question I mentioned above. Should women become the initiators in dating? Should we chase the ones we like? Should I expect romantic encounters through the Social Media? All I know is that the scenario of Adele playing in the background and someone preventing me to get on the train or airplane has become a long lasting dream. So boys, these are the dating circumstances in the 21st Century. Any thoughts?
Like on Facebook 
Join on Twitter
Yeah!
ReplyDeleteFrancesca
The Glossy Mag